Own your relationship status

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  • In a Relationship
  • Engaged
  • Married
  • It’s Complicated
  • Single
  • Takin’ care of business

Recent status change: takin’ care of business

With Valentine’s Day coming up in a few weeks, it would be nice to read something that sheds positive light for single people on your social feed. People are done being single. They want change, and the best way to update your single status, is to be in the business of getting things done and making things happen.

These phrases should no longer phase the old singles:

“Another engagement, here we go.”

“I’m going to die alone.”

“RSVP for (1)”

“Name: Third Wheel”

“Forever alone”

It’s time for you to focus on being your best self. Time to travel more, better your current relationships with friends and family, and take risks. Just because you do not have a significant other does not mean you’re alone, you have more than enough R&R (relationships & resources) to accompany you.

Work from 9-5, technology, and the norm of having a significant other can hinder people from enjoying the blessings that are right in front of them. Listen and be attentive to the world around you. The sky isn’t falling like they say it is on television, and you still have air to breathe and goals to fulfill. Appreciate those little things in life, and focus on letting go of insecurities. Enhance those goals of self exploration.

It’s a blessing to get things done on your own. Self-actualization, inspiration, and revitalization — make these apart of your business plan in creating your best self. There will be no settling for the title of being “single.” Find your spark, the thing that makes you tick. You have your whole life ahead of you, and right now, it’s time do things your way. B.T.O. made it famous, and it’s your turn to “take care of business.” I present you with the challenge of setting, changing, and owning this new relationship status today.

Simple Steps for the New Year

#Happy2015

The New Year holiday tends to bring out the cliché in everyone. I think we can all agree that the “new year, new me” resolutions are old news. Take life as its given, one day at a time, one moment at a time.

So, with the kickoff of 2015, I offer you ten simple steps to help you in the New Year. Happy 2015!

1. Reflect.

Evaluate the past 365 days. Browse through your iPhotos and think back on the memories you made in 2014. Write down the moments that impacted you the most. Think of the times where you laughed the hardest (perhaps to tears) and realized how blessed you were in 2014. Step back and reflect.

2. Set goals.

Set goals, big goals. If you accomplish them, great. If not, re-write your strategy. Every day that God gives you presents another opportunity to be better and try harder. Take advantage of free time. Realize that you’re never too busy to stop dreaming about your next move.

3. Pray for wisdom and understanding.

One of my favorite bible verses is Colossians 2:2-3, “I want them to be encouraged and knit together by strong ties of love. I want them to have complete confidence that they understand God’s mysterious plan, which is Christ himself. In him lie hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.” There is no time like the present to get on your knees and pray for a better world. However, results do not happen overnight, wisdom and understanding are key in getting through life’s circumstances.

4. Empower others.

Find someone to empower in 2015. Everyone needs an extra word of encouragement to make it through good times and hard times. Push someone to suit up and make a difference.

5. Travel.

See the world, invest in a trip far away from home. Go somewhere you have never been before to experience the scenery, local dining, and culture. Your wallet may be lighter when you return home but your soul will be more rich.

6. Throw fear out the window.

So, you’re afraid to swim with sharks in the ocean? I am too, but it’s on my bucket list. Go hang gliding, climb Mount Everest, do something new that you’ve always been hesitant to do. If it scares you, it might be a good thing. The only way to get over your fear of something, is to run through it and let it know you’re an overcomer.

7. Stay humble.

Hold yourself accountable for your achievements and mishaps. Take ownership of your mistakes and give credit where it’s due. Remember you did not get through steps a), b), and c) in life without a support system. Whether you’re climbing the social or career ladder, praise others for helping you.

8. Downsize.

One of my mentors once told me that all you need in life is a suitcase. She also said that if you have too many items to pack, then you need to downsize in order to fit them all into your suitcase. This person traveled around the world and lived in over six different countries. Clean out your closet, let go of the boxes of old clothes you have not been able to give away. Find a local crisis center to donate to and avoid using your credit card in replacing those items. Get organized and free yourself from clutter.

9. Say “I love you” each day.

Each day presented to you is a blessing. Let the people around you know that you love and appreciate their presence. Take advantage of long car rides, family vacations, and the power of technology. Use that face time and remind someone that they are loved.

10. Celebrate.

Save your pennies and plan a big get-together. Go to your favorite place in the city with your best friends. Count your blessings and leave lee-way for the growing list of promises that God has set for you in 2015. Make it a year to remember and celebrate life.